Essentially Loved

For the widow who feels flat, forgotten, or unsure where she belongs this Christmas. A tender, grief-informed reflection on why the holidays feel so heavy—and five gentle ways to move through the season with honesty and care.

The Widow’s Holiday Cry — what she wishes everyone understood. A real, somatic, whole-body look at why Christmas hurts after loss and the truths that help widows survive the season.

Grief doesn’t just change us — it changes our friendships too. One day you’re sharing life with people who knew you “before,” and the next, you’re learning how to stay connected through loss. Here’s why it’s hard to be friends with a widow — and what love looks like when you stay.

In this modern lament, I share my honest journey through loss and love — how grief reshaped me, and how love still lives within all that remains. You’re invited to write your own modern lament and discover the raw beauty of loved lived out after you lost someone.

When you’re grieving, sleep doesn’t come easy. Your brain’s “cleaning crew” - the glymphatic system - can’t do its work, leaving you foggy and exhausted. In this gentle guide, written for widows, discover how deep rest, hydration, natural care like essential oils, and small kindnesses can help your body and mind find rhythm again.

Grief isn’t just an emotion - it’s a lived experience that imprints on the brain, body, and soul. In this post, grief coach and spiritual director Kimber explores why grief deserves dignity, how it rewires us, and what it means to carry love forward while learning to live with loss.